My wife left for UK in 2016 after she had secured employment. we had planned that she will go alone first then afterwards I and our three children will join a year later.
However, after she got to the UK she stopped all forms of communications with me. I tried searching for her till I contacted her workplace and that’s when we got to talk. In that conversation she outrightly told me that she was no longer interested in the marriage or anything to do with the family. Infact she told me clearly that she had met a white tourist english man in Zim who wanted to marry her, so it was this person who sorted all her visas, the job and almost everything for her to travel to the UK. She also told me to forget about her and seek for a divorce, at least I managed to record the call and I still have it to this day.
As sad as it sounds, I was heartbroken and got depressed and had lots of suicidal thoughts, apa you know gossip vanhu vachikutaura and laughing at you and making it seem as if I’m the one to blame for this betrayal, it was hard to take it in worse off coming from ma family members zvekuti ndakanga ndisingachaendi Kuma family gatherings etc.. the only thing that kept me going was the thought yekuti Vana vanhu vanosara nani if I commit suicide so it kept me strong and gave me hope. Ndakashingirira working for my children, and started a gold mining business till zvinhu zvangu zvakufaya. But because I had not yet done anything on divorce sezvinhu zvandainzwira nungo I was scared of accumulating properties in my name, so I opened a trust with my children as the trustees and later on had my first born daughter paakasvitsa 20 years to be the Managing Director and it’s flowing very well.
Now pane nyaya yangu is last week Saturday ndakafonerwa na Mai VA ex wife wanting to see me and I gave her my address, to my surprise she came kumba kwangu around 7pm na ex wife wangu whom I thought was in the UK at this time. In that moment of shock I welcomed them vakapinda mumba and soon as my children saw these visitors they left the dining area where they were happily playing and locked themselves in their bedroom, I tried calling them to come and greet their mother but they refused and gave an excuse saying it’s late tozovaona kwachena mangwana. Apparently the topic they had brought was that ex wife adzoka and now want to be reunited with family. I couldn’t make a decision as I was in shock and disbelief, at the same time in pain and grief, so I just instructed the maid to cook for them and give them a room to sleep ndozovaona kwayedza.
So the following day I woke up around 7am but couldn’t find my children so I asked the maid and she told me that they left around 5am in the morning with my eldest daughter driving. We then had tea, inini na maid, ex wife and her mother. Kwazoti kwava Kuma 10am was called by my pastor kuti ndiuye paita emergency, so I left home kwakusiya vaenzi varipamba na maid.. soon as I arrived kwa pastor I found my children variko and they then told me kuti they left home coz they can’t stay in the same house with that witch, they then said I should chase that witch away from our house or they will all commit suicide, apa arikunzi witch is their mother. They even showed me ropes they bought and rat poison which they will use to commit suicide if I don’t chase away their mother.
I tried explaining that their mother didn’t abandon them but that she was arrested ku UK so that’s why she wasn’t coming back. The eldest daughter then opened her Facebook account and showed me vile messages that this woman was sending to her ever since she left Zim, whenever my daughter reached out to her mother on Facebook, she will respond with a pic of her step children in the UK saying these are my children kwete imimi Vana black mambazo, heee you are little witches who want to ruin my life by following me into my new family blah blah, and all other sad messages till she got blocked..Moyo wangu wakanzwa seuri kubayiwa and I received counseling from the pastor tese SE family.
So I successfully rejected her and politely chased her away vese namai vacho.
Pava nenyaya is she now wants a divorce because she saw imba yatinogara, nemota dziripo and she even asked maid kuti what other properties we have but maid didn’t answer the questions ndiye akazondiudza kuti aibvunza ma assets atinawo,so ex wife doesn’t know hake kuti ma properties ese ndakaisa kuvana etc..i DNT have many assets in my name, I only have one car in my name, the rest are registered in my daughter’s name, dzimwe dziri muzita re trust, so I’m ok with the divorce but pane nyaya yangu is if we divorce, is it ok for me to allow my kids to keep on this grudge against their mother? Havazotande botso here? At the same time will I not push them into committing suicide like they promised, I know it may just be a threat with no intent, but what if they are really serious? I am at cross roads right now, inini I’m over & done with this woman
